Friday, November 15, 2013
I took my "lunch" at the end of the day yesterday, so that I could go to Jackson's Thanksgiving party at school. CLEARLY, he was pumped and ready to participate in the festivities. It was more like, he had just taken one of the best naps of his life, and was mad at the world for having to wake up.
Soooooooo..... I held him while the rest of his class read a couple of fun stories, sang a couple of cute songs, and made a turkey craft. They let McKinley come in from her class, so she participated some..while making sure she was providing people with tissues, when she thought their noses might be running. She sat in another mothers lap and played with her hair. :) McKinley did answer she was thankful for her "momma" when asked.
Jackson perked up just in time for some pumpkin bread and juice boxes. And then he declared, it was time to "go on home"
Happy Thanksgiving from Jackson. :)
Posted by danielle at 1:06 PM
Wednesday, November 13, 2013
So, I graduated from college TEN YEARS ago.
Posted by danielle at 10:12 AM
Wednesday, November 6, 2013
We had such a fun fun day! The kids got to dress up to go to school. They had a party after nap time. I am thankful for a job that allows me to be a mom first, so I was able to attend!
After the party, we rushed home to finish getting the house and dinner ready. Our family was coming over for a Chili Bar, Pumpkin Chip Cookies and Trick Or Treating.
Aunt Amy came over too! She brought all the kids yummy cupcakes, which they devoured!!!!
Posted by danielle at 9:33 AM
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
She is one of the biggest blessings in our family's life right now. After 2 days in a different classroom at the beginning of the year, the teacher mentioned in a round about way that she thinks Jackson has ADD and needs to be tested. 2 days, people. I asked Ms. Christie, if she could talk to this other teacher and kind of give her the run down on Jackson. (Ms. Christie had Jackson 2 days a week last year). Well, after some talks, we decided Jackson would just stay in Ms. Christie's class instead. BEST.DECISION.EVER.
She is one of the most patient, kind hearted people we know. She has taken her time to figure out Jackson, figure out what motivates him at school, and figured out how to make him successful. He feels safe and loved at school. He LOVES going to school.
One night at home, Jackson was talking about Ms. Christie, and asked if she would be Iron Man for Halloween. I told him, I did not know what she was going to be, so he made a little video on the phone asking Ms. Christie to be Iron Man. Well, she showed up to school like this the next day. Talk about making my sons day!!!!
I have already mentioned her assistance in prepping Jackson to get his hair trimmed at school.
She has also made HUGE strides in Jackson wanting to do arts and crafts at school- even doing crafts that require paint on his hands.
Well the latest development has just really blown us away. I noticed something last week. We were driving home, and Jackson started talking about what he wanted for dinner.. and of course it was pizza. I told him we were not going to get pizza, we were going to have something I already had prepared at home. He said "pleeeeeeeaaaaase" I told him I appreciated his politeness, but we were still not going to get pizza. When I turned into our neighborhood, instead of going straight to get pizza, he normally starts throwing a fit... well this time, he didnt throw a fit. I heard him deep breathing in his car seat and telling himself "its ok, Jackson, its ok". And by the time we got home, he was totally fine and pizza wasnt mentioned again. I thought it was really interesting, but I was really proud of him. Well yesterday, he had not slept well the night before, so he was not ready to get into the car to go to school. We told him, it was time to go get in the car, and he said "maybe later I want to sit on the couch". I told him, we needed to get in the car....he started deep breathing again.. got up off the couch, continued to deep breathe, and walked out to the van deep breathing the whole time. By the time he got in the car seat, he was fine. No fit. It was amazing. I asked Ms. Christie later that day, if she had taught Jackson to deep breathe when he was getting upset. Of course, she had. :) She has been working with Jackson, to start deep breathing when he starts realizing he is getting upset. And obviously, she has taught him this in such a way that he understands it and can apply it. Absolutely amazing. ( I am also really impressed with Jackson for being able to realize his triggers!)
Craig and I are just so blessed to have such a community of people who are walking with us and supporting us on our parenting journey. Ms. Christie, we love you! We thank God everyday, that he allowed you to be Jackson's teacher. You are making quite an impact in his life. We will be forever grateful!
Posted by danielle at 10:06 AM
Wednesday, October 23, 2013
If you have followed my blog for any amount of time, you know what a character my son is. You know how he is precious and sweet and hilarious. But you also know, figuring out how to parent him has been so extremely hard. I will be the first one to tell you that I thought I had parenting ALL figured out.. before I was a parent. :) So some of the things we were experiencing with Jackson, we just figured was "normal" toddler behavior. Well some of the things we thought he would outgrow, he just hasn't.
We were put in a VERY ugly uncomfortable position at the church that we were attending. The preschool director of this church, just did not like Jackson. He was not the easiest kid in the preschool department. He would not always listen. He would not always participate. He would do his own thing. But he loooooooooved going to church. She made a decision regarding Jackson and his placement in Sunday School without talking with Craig and I, first. I, became a defensive mom and told her she would do it my way. I might not have handled the situation correctly- however I struggle to believe that it is any preschool directors position to determine the level of my child's maturity. (Craig was in the ministry for over 15 years and ran across quite a few immature 7th graders, but he never had the option of sending them back down to the childrens department.. Not the ministers decision) I am assuming my viewpoint, upset her, because she then chose to use my child to prove her point. She allowed her staff to try their very hardest to "force" him to do things (normal totally safe things), that he did not want to do, aka group time. Knowing that this would eventually lead to a fit. And then when he did throw a fit, no one tried to console him, they just let him lay on the floor and cry. Craig and I left church that day feeling completely hurt. Not so much for ourselves, goodness we can handle that lady. But for our son. Our FOUR YEAR OLD was essentially "bullied" by an adult. (I use the word bullied very carefully.. I feel like it can totally be overused). We know, that Jackson does not fit in any 4 year old box. He never will. But, have you ever met Craig or I... neither one of us fit in a box either. And I truly believe that when I bring my child to church, it should be a safe place. It should be a place where he is met where he is (regardless of maturity), and he is loved and shown compassion and grace. We had to make the decision that, this director was clearly incapable of showing that to our child. Thankfully, we live in Oklahoma, where there is a plethera of churches. We decided we would find a church that wanted to walk along side us as parents and help us teach our children about the most important relationship of all.
It was a sad day. Actually, lets be honest, its still VERY hard. Craig and I had to walk away from friends, from a Sunday School class that we loved. We had to walk away from learning from a new pastor, that we totally respected. Jackson and McKinley had to walk away from friends that they loved and looked forward to seeing every Wednesday and Sunday.
One bad apple, ruined the whole thing. But, Craig and I's job is to be an advocate for our son. We have to protect him.
Shortly after this experience, I went to dinner with a couple of dear friends to celebrate a new baby that was coming soon. We had some great conversations about our families. One friend, opened up about some different things that they were trying with their son. What she described was different but pretty similar to things that we have experienced with Jackson. It was SUCH a freeing experience. To know that we are not alone. And that we are not bad parents.
I am not going to lie, even though I knew it wasnt true, leaving our church that day, the thought crossed my mind, how we had let Jackson down as his parents. We clearly hadnt done everything we should do to make him "act right" in all situations. I knew, really knew, that we had done and were continuing to do the very best we could.. but still...
SO- we have decided that we are going to get him evaluated for Sensory Processing Disorder. If you look it up, Jackson doesnt fit the description fully. But I'm ok with that. He definitely has some sensory issues (hair cuts, finger nail cuts, showers, group time, etc), and I am excited for the possibility of some occupational therapy to help him figure out how to cope through some of these things. And then help Craig and I parent our way through them. I believe that we have been disciplining Jackson over some issues that he really can not help. We just need to figure it all out. I am excited.
Thankfully, we have had some INCREDIBLE teachers walk along side us during this journey. The kids go to a fantastic little school (daycare) in Norman. I have talked about this school on the blog many times before. But seriously, every day I am blown away with their love and compassion for my children. And clearly my kids FEEL loved and protected there. Last week, when I went to pick Jackson up, Ms. Leah met me and told me JACKSON LET HER CUT HIS HAIR. She cuts hair in addition to teaching, so I had mentioned to her, if she wanted to clean up Jackson's neck and around his ears, I would love her forever. Well Ms. Leah and Ms. Christie talked to him about it for a while, and then last week Ms. Leah asked Jackson if she could cut his hair and he said "sure" and did not throw a fit. AT ALL. Sure, she cut with kids safety scissors, but it looks SO good to me!!! Then today, it was class picture day. I dressed Jackson cute, but really did not expect for him to participate.... I got a text from Ms. Christie saying not only did he participate, he smiled in the picture! SO PROUD of him. And SO THANKFUL for these ladies. Every day, the teachers at Jackson and McKinley's school show them Jesus in their actions. I will be FOREVER grateful.
I am a proud mama! I am thankful for all the people in Jackson's life, who love him unconditionally and truly believe he is absolutely perfect. And for those few, that wish he could fit into a normal 4 year old box- you are missing out.
Posted by danielle at 8:00 PM
Monday, October 7, 2013
I dont know what Friday nights look like in your house. But often ours looks like pajamas, take out and early bed times.
Our Friday night was basically just that... I picked the kids up a pizza on the way home... McKinley ate 2 pieces, Jackson ate THE REST of the pizza. I am not joking. And when Craig got home from work, Jackson was asking for a bologna sandwich, a cheese sandwich and broccoli. I think he was hungry. He has gotten REALLY picky lately. And it makes me sad. I am hoping for a phase, and we will push right on through it. I miss the days that he would eat whatever we would give him.
Saturday, the kids slept in since it stayed dark for so long. It was fantastic. We had a good morning at home! We laid the kids down for a nap and my mom came over...
Posted by danielle at 9:41 AM